Doing Life's Transitions Better

By Scott Schimmel

Students today are under extraordinary pressure from all angles. Most people, especially young people, don't handle pressure well. Under academic, social, and family pressure, students aren't finishing high school with clarity and confidence about who they are and where they're headed- they're just finishing. 

When you don't have an effective way to handle stress and pressure during a transition, your only option is to just get through it. When you don't have a process, a plan, and clarity about what success on the other side looks like, you're likely to miss out on the learning opportunities during the challenging season.

Students need a process and a plan to go through transition well. 

[Take a look at what happens when your student approaches transition poorly. We created a visual aid to help students diagnose how they're doing through transition, and how to choose a better path]

You might be tempted to tell your student to not stress or worry about figuring life out before going off to college. "That's what college is for," you find yourself repeating again and again. 

Unfortunately, that's a myth. 

Over 90% of college students graduate without a clear sense of who they are or where they're headed. It's not happening in college.

Do not believe the myth that students will figure themselves out later on. Time is short. Choices are critical. The time is now. 

We have a plan and a process to help your students rapidly get to clarity and confidence. It's worked with thousands of students, and it will work for yours. 

Here are a set of questions you might use to help ease the anxiety and worry that naturally comes from transition, but also surrenders to the reality of the time-sensitive pressure to figure things out:

  • On a scale from 1-10, what's your level of worry about figuring out next steps after high school?
  • What do you think a great transition would feel like?
  • A lot of people stress out and worry through transition because they can't control the unknown. What's causing you to worry the most?
  • What would failure look like?
  • What kind of help do you need?

Transitions matter. If you choose the right attitude (openness, vulnerability, optimism), and turn away from defensiveness, impulsivity, and disengagement, you can step into a process that gets you to clarity and confidence about the road ahead.