The Real Me

By Scott Schimmel

There are things you can just tell about the kind of person I am. I’m a tall white guy who dresses like he just came off the golf course most days. So most people aren’t surprised to find out that I grew up in South Orange County, went to private school, and not just play golf, but watch a lot of golf on tv. 

But there are a lot of things that you couldn’t tell by me by first glance, or even by what you observe about me online. I’m a huge sports fan (which you can tell by the hats I wear, the tv I watch, the way I spend my money), but I”m also incredibly empathetic, so much so that I have a hard time rooting for my favorite sports teams because I’m worried the other team might feel sad. I’m a public speaker and sometimes speak every day of the week, but I grew up with significant speech and developmental delays and had to go to speech therapy for years. 

The point is: there’s a lot more going on inside people than you can tell by observation. 

Ideally, we would all be fully integrated and healthy human beings. Meaning, the outside of our lives would match and express the inside of our hearts. If I care about something, I should do something about it. If I am inspired by something, I should spend time doing that activity. If I love something, I should orient my life around it. 

But most people have mismatched lives. 

We all have a lot going on. We all have baggage, leftover, residual feelings and sometimes even damage done to us by the early influences in our life. Most of us got the message that it’s not okay to be who we really are, so we learned how to hide our true feelings and desires because they weren’t acceptable. 

That mismatch leads people to be misaligned, as portrayed in the often quoted line, "The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation, and go to the grave with the song still in them.” 

It’s a process, sometimes a long process, to get to the core of who we are. It takes a lot of vulnerability and guidance from trusted friends and advisors. 

In the YouSchool program, we provide the structure for people to explore the inner parts of who they are, and begin learning (again) how to be free, to be their true selves, and to allow the inner parts to order the outer ones. 

We have a group program in a peer setting, as well as a 1-1 program with a trained YouSchool Guide, which can help you find your true self. 

If you are finding yourself ready for the adventure, go to our Signup page and get started today.