Winston Churchill said, "The farther back you look, the further ahead you can see."
Most teens don't see very far into the future, though. How could they? They have much more pressing issues in the here and now:
The primary task of adolescence is figuring out who they are, but their primary desire is for acceptance. Those can get mixed up, making it tempting to forget who you are and instead pursue a persona that is the least threatening for peer rejection. Too often, a kid carries unresolved questions about themselves well into adulthood, a recipe for poor decision-making and wasted time.
Our current system needs to yield the self-awareness that every kid needs to make the best choices at the optimal time. But, out of our mouths come well-intentioned phrases like, "Don't worry about figuring it all out—just put your head down and do well in school so you can go to a good university."
Unfortunately, most teenagers don't get the opportunity to become self-aware. Their attention is pointed toward achievement, not wisdom.
It’s possible, though. If we want our kids to be best prepared to build and design meaningful lives, it starts with teaching them to reflect on their backstories. As Churchill suggested, they’ll be better equipped to make the right decisions at the right moment if they have the capacity to look backward to understand where they come from and the trajectory of their life already.
How do you help a kid understand their backstory?
Understanding where you come from is a critical part of navigating toward a meaningful life. It doesn’t happen overnight or by accident; it requires deliberate effort over time by adults to teach the skill.
For years we’ve been studying what a young person needs in order to transition into a healthy, thriving adulthood.
They're uncommon sense ideas, really.
Download this checklist and use it with your students (or kids).