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Becoming the Narrators of Our Kid's Lives


As parents of teenagers, we often find ourselves caught up in the whirlwind of everyday life, barely taking a moment to pause and appreciate the milestones our children achieve. Last Friday, we had the opportunity to attend my daughter's 8th-grade graduation ceremony from Middle School. Reflecting upon that experience, I realized how easy it is to dismiss such moments as mere formalities, rushing through them without recognizing their true significance. 

The Temptation to Just Get Through It:

As I sat in the graduation ceremony, surrounded by proud parents and eager students, it struck me how tempting it was to view the event as just another box to check on the path to high school. We get caught up in the hustle and bustle, worrying about the next task on our to-do lists, and forget to savor the moments that define our children's lives. However, it’s crucial to resist this temptation and instead take the time to reflect on what our children have been through and how they have grown. (Maybe I’m just speaking to myself here?)

Acknowledging the Significance:

Every graduation and promotion represents a pivotal point in our kid’s lives. It marks the end of one chapter and the beginning of another. By acknowledging the significance of these milestones, we validate their achievements and help them develop a sense of pride in their accomplishments. Whether it's the transition from middle school to high school or any other significant advancement, it's an opportunity for us to foster their self-awareness and build their self-confidence.

Becoming the Narrators of Our Kid's Lives:

We have the unique opportunity to become the narrators of our children's lives. By actively engaging in conversations and reflection, we can help them understand the challenges they have overcome, the skills they have acquired, and the growth they have experienced. By becoming their internal voice, we give them a perspective that enables them to see themselves clearly and appreciate their journey.

The Power of Self-Reflection:

Self-reflection is a valuable skill that empowers individuals to understand their strengths, weaknesses, and areas for growth. By encouraging our kids to engage in self-reflection, we equip them with a tool for lifelong learning and personal development. Encourage them to take stock of their accomplishments, identify areas where they excelled, and set goals for their future. By doing so, we instill in them a sense of agency and resilience that will serve them well as they navigate the challenges and opportunities that lie ahead.

Making Time for Celebration:

In our fast-paced lives, it's easy to overlook the importance of celebration. However, taking the time to commemorate our children's milestones is essential. Organize special family gatherings, heartfelt conversations, or even small ceremonies to mark these significant events. Celebrating together creates lasting memories and demonstrates our unwavering support for their journey.

Recognizing and celebrating the milestones in our children's lives is more than just a formality; it is an opportunity to strengthen their sense of self-awareness and self-confidence. By becoming the narrators of their lives, we provide them with a positive internal voice that guides them through their personal growth. Let us take a step back from our busy schedules, reflect on their milestones—whether they are big accomplishments and achievements or not—and celebrate their journey. By doing so, we empower our kids to embrace their milestones, own their stories, and confidently face the adventures that lie ahead.

All for the sake of kids,

Scott Schimmel
President & Chief Guide | The YouSchool
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